I’ll Have What She’s Having – A Sad Goodbye to Nora Ephron
She was literate, compassionate, witty and wise. I did not know her – I just knew I wanted to be as close to that amazing ideal as possible. Not just today, but everyday. That was and is pretty much the goal…some cheese, some dear friends, some views, some laughter, some clarity, some connection, some optimism, some candor, some sweets, some perfectly brewed espresso, some feelings of accomplishment, some great hair, some well crafted prose, some silly, some clear goals, some kids heading in the right direction, some insight that paves the way, some citrus in bubble water, some witty, some inside line, some passionate kisses, some lucky breaks, some role in the big picture, some cushion for hard falls and yes one true love…well Nora Ephron made it look easy, attainable, a noble pursuit and most of all fun – so I went for it!
Nora Ephron’s death was shared via a tweet which quickly went viral (and led me to believe she would have something sharp and quite genius to share about the reality of the viral obituary). Since then, I cannot quite stop reading the commentary from the most amazing circle of strong, savvy and certainly stung by the news individuals who just adored Nora (or what they imagined they knew of her). Just as we all came of age with the wink of “I’ll have what she’s having” from When Harry Met Sally, so too did we mold ourselves around the obvious fun Nora Ephron was having even living in the truth of it all.
I read the oh so moving New York Times obituary and all I could think after reading Meryl Streep’s beautiful quote:
“You could call on her for anything: doctors, restaurants, recipes, speeches, or just a few jokes, and we all did it, constantly,” she wrote in her e-mail. “She was an expert in all the departments of living well.”
I am so damn glad I ordered what she had….